All that glitters might be gold, but not for you…
Okay! Consider this scenario, say someone gifts you a mirror on your birthday. Now, this isn’t a regular mirror which simply portrays the truth; it is a mystical one. Where normal mirrors are just truth beacons which show you whatever is happening to you or around you (until someone puts a snapchat filter and start behaving like a dog) I mean, how do people even take pride in it? Anyway, this mirror basically just takes whatever you do and does it better. Say one fine morning you put in grave efforts and look the best according to you, but somehow your other half in the mirror always manages to look better. I mean, it’s still you on the other side, so you start over again and again to upskill the one in the mirror, but in vain, which induces anxiety and insecurity making you think that you’re not good enough. Man! The worst thing to gift someone on their birthday.
Isn’t this exactly what most of us are trying to do in our day-to-day life? We look at someone doing ‘one thing’ better than us, which is enough for us to be insecure and anxious about our own life. Now, there’s a reason I emphasized ‘one thing’ and that is because there are an enough number of things we can be better at or sometimes even the best, but we tend to cry over those things where someone else is getting by effortlessly. You could always throw the mirror (or maybe pass on over to someone else on their birthday, of course to teach them this analogy) and put back the normal mirror where you see yourself as it is, including your flaws and be content with it.
Speaking of flaws, considering the same mirror analogy, imagine an artist draws up an astounding painting while the other artists getting insecure about their own art pick up the same painting and try to make it better. There won’t be any new art and people might not even bother spending billions on it because basically it’s the same piece of art with some modifications while there’s no originality that exists. Every time a painting is worth whatever money it makes is because of the value it derives from the originality. For me, a painting is nothing but the flaws belonging to each of the individual artists, spilled on a canvas which makes for a perfect art that separate them from one another because if the artist waits for a painting to be flawless the painting might forever be incomplete and would remain unpublished. In the end, the artists tend to accept their imperfection and publish the painting. If not, they would end up stuck with only a dream.
By now, you might’ve already guessed where I am heading with this. We need to embrace our flaws which make us distinct, or else everyone would basically be the same person with the same personalities. Committing to a thing which we are already good at or could possibly be the best at according to our traits will lead to a higher percentage of success in whatever it is that we plan to do. If one isn’t sure about the forte in which they belong, I say take a basic idea about what you desire to do and use the ‘Trial & Error’ method to really know what you are meant to do, as sometimes what we think we like is different from what we are actually destined to do which certainly can be figured out practically by implementing this method. We just have to find the ‘good’ to make it ‘better’ and ultimately try to be the ‘best’ at it, instead of watching someone being good at something while being bad at it yourself, which is an endless loop of endless people with various different skill sets. As a famous person once, said, “Each person is their own experiences and trauma’s”, so why not make use of those and find something which makes us unique and helps us to stand out?
That’s it! Hope that mirror never finds its way to you.